When you are focused on amusing yourself you project a very positive vibe that attracts women. Why is this? The rule is that people who offer value (value givers) attract others, while people who take value (value takers) repel people. Giving value can be many things, but in this case we are talking about giving people positive emotions. Making them feel good. People love to be around others that make them feel good. A big factor in attracting a woman when you first meet her is:
- When you are bringing the party, she is interested.
- When you are trying to wedge your way into her party, she is repelled.
If you are looking to her for amusement, to feel good, with her making good conversation for example, you are a value taker. And will repel her, or at least not attract her that much. If, on the other hand, you create amusement for yourself, and as a consequence you amuse her, you give her value. You become a value giver. And she will be interested in you. As will people in general. This is why you should seek to be self-amusing. To generate your own fun and positive emotions..