"When you have a strong frame, other people tend to accept it.
If you perceive her tests as playful and cute, they will often turn out harmless. If, on the other hand you perceive her tests as being scary and intimidating, then that is what they will become!
Women test your frame to find out if you are used to women liking you, if you try to make others feel good about themselves and their contributions and if you feel the need to impress others.
They also test to see if you feel guilty about your sexual desire, which would imply that you don't offer much in the bedroom.
She needs to know if you have a mind geared for survival. Do you get distracted by the opinions of others? Do you feel threatened by women? Do other men make you nervous? Are you emotionally unstable, causing you to be unduly affected by circumstances?
If she were to ask you these things directly, she KNOWS you could lie.
So instead of asking you, she tests your focus your reactions, and gauges your intention and your personal beliefs. She watches you and feels you. She infers things about your character instantly, based on unconscious and rather ingenious intuition.
She is wired for this. From the moment she is aware of your existence, she is screening your character.
This is why merely knowing techniques doesn't get a person very far.
A weak and submissive man who memorizes routines is still a weak and submissive man."