#1 is just human nature – people love success, but a lot of folks don’t want to put in the work. They want the outcomes without going through the process. Every day I meet people who want the big house, the expensive car, gorgeous women, but not everyone is willing to make it happen. This is no different from playing the guitar or learning a foreign language. Many start, but not everyone sticks with it long enough to master their new skills.
This reminds of me of the Edward Harriman quote: “Much work is lost for the lack of a little more”.
#2 is different. Unlike learning the guitar or another language or some other skill, learning how to attract women and Alpha Casanova is much more personal and emotional. In a word, you’re dealing with your own vulnerability and ego and defenses. Look, if you miss a note on the piano or mispronounce a word in your second language, most men can handle it. Unless you’re a perfectionist, you’re really not going to beat yourself up over it or feel bad about yourself.
But with women, every mistake seems to lead to you getting negative feedback about yourself as a man. It seems like real rejection by a real person (in a moment I’ll talk about why you shouldn’t look at things this way, but for now stick with me). This can lead to fear of rejection– studies show that social rejection and physical pain activate the same brain areas