Momentum guys, it’s one of the things I consistently see missing from the community at large.This is a crucial skill in itself, the loss of which can occur in several different ways all of which will slow your growth to a crawl. I’m going to cover the following on momentum: How to build it as a force for change and success in your love life. I’m going to tell you about the secret to “chunking” to keep your momentum going and the 4 different types of momentum. If you’re missing just one then everything falls apart!
A few guys will already be aware of this but when it comes to mastering any skill set you’ll go through peaks and valleys, as you work on yourself and hit the next level, the peak, you’ll suddenly find yourself descending again as a new sticking point or challenge appears that requires more time to overcome. This will help you with the peaks and valleys.
And it isn’t just pick up based, momentum is something that will have a cumulative effect on your life and the quality of it, over time. The point of this is to increase your growth rate with the time you spend practicing whilst maximising your potential not just in PU but in your life.
Finding your momentum:
I’ve been mentioning this a lot lately, it’s a re-occurring theme when I talk to guys: “Find those who seek the truth, run from those who claim to have found it”
Very wise words, here’s the catch… if you can call it that. You must first know what truth it is you seek. You must know what you want from this skillset, this lifestyle and this abundance of choice that you are building towards. Your goals will change, if they don’t you should reassess; you probably aren’t growing yourself. Development creates new levels of passion and drive towards ever increasing goals. Whether this is a practical goal, or a more abstract one keep it in mind, because you’ll need it to remind you there is something in this world you are striving to obtain in abundance. Keep that motivation there and present, remind yourself of what the big picture is. There’s an expression: “It’s very easy to lose sight of the forest for the trees.”
In the immediate you also want to have mini-goals that you are looking to achieve each week, these don’t need to be meticulously planned just make a mental note of what you want to achieve in certain parts of your day or activities. We call this chunking, having one achievable goal after another, it helps keep your momentum in check, stops you asking too much of yourself. Realistic achievable goals are key but always with that big picture in the back of your mind.
Keeping track of what you are doing in a journal either on or off a forum will be very useful, not just for spotting patterns but also because most people when they hit the valleys we just talked about, completely forget how far they have actually come. Hopefully having hot girls chasing you will help too.
Types of Momentum:
Some of this may be familiar but, before I get to the advanced stuff, I’m going to briefly remind you of the types of momentum you can leverage to help yourself now.
Most basic level…
This comes down to pushing forward and being action driven rather then event driven, this is pulling a girl before the club closes rather then because the club closes. You should always be compliance testing, screening logistics, moving her around the venue and pushing things forward where possible but within her comfort zone of escalation. Often times you’ll be able to effectively SNL more efficiently and even have a few numbers for solid Day 2’s from working in this way. When you don’t know what to do then push yourself forward and take a chance, better to push the set and learn something then hesitate and have nothing.
Well, you can be like most guys and just scan the room, look awkward. Get yourself a drink, use the bathroom and maybe approach, if you feel like it. If you do manage an approach you can head back to a friend afterwards and all think about it and chat for a bit, maybe even just talk PU and maybe, just maybe, even approach again. You can see the challenges this presents to you, this kind of behavior means that every time you approach a set you’re starting from zero, every time you are having to get yourself over AA and out of your head, you never build social proof and because you’re so slack with it you never hit that point where you don’t care, ultimately you just don’t learn much from the night. Now, the opposite of that is the 90% rule, one we all know and love, being in set 90% of the time from the moment you enter a venue until the moment you leave, you stay in a set. Of course you’ll have to suffer through the following things when you do this: State aka being happy and having fun. AA is gone – not caring about outcome Social proof / preselection is established – girls giving you AI’s Enjoying life on “Warm side of the pool” – being the center of the party.
Night-to-Night (Day-to-Day) Momentum:
I used to line up my sarges so that I’d be hitting it three nights in a row, just as there is in-venue momentum there is also momentum from one night to the next, when you are planning on building and pushing through last nights successes and polishing up on the challenges you face, you’ll find it easier the next night, wait a week and you find that you’re working on the exact same sticking point for two or more weeks in a row. You slip back into your old reality, your new life and your old will clash, you will be challenged by your old comfortable habits being an option compared to the new life and reality you are building yourself but that requires some effort. Allowing yourself to stay in this PU mode for longer and longer periods, building that momentum, really starts to alter your reality. You’ll start to more heavily embody the traits that you are practicing and you enter a state of constantly being ‘on’ from doing this. This builds into the place where it’s not something you do but something you are. When that happens the changes in your life will be very profound.
Finally guys, there is the broadly titled ‘life momentum’, this is simply putting yourself in the best position to have new cool stuff happen in your life, like you being asked to join Facebook groups for cool activities you like. You are always open to meeting new people and allowing new adventures and you actively seek out the next thing you want to try or accomplish in your life. The moment you do this you’ll find stuff gets crazy, in fact just last week I was: Acting in a scriptwriting workshop, Salsaing with a girlfriend,Went for a meal with a student and his new girlfriend, Being offered a job for a sales team despite having no formal training, Getting free drinks from a bar maid I met in the street, Got dragged to an art gallery, Watched a different student get molested by a fat girl… (no names will be mentioned, you’re safe dude.) And so on…Note we are taking small conscious action each and every day with things that interest us or catch our curiosity and we meet interesting people from these things an so it builds into Facebook, or invited to a party on and on. The possibilities are out there.