5 Proven Tips For Getting Over Crippling Approach Anxiety

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Getting a Girl on Her Own

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When you meet a woman in a bar, club or social gathering situation she will often be with other people. At some point you should move her away from her group, so that you can get to know each other better one on one.

Perhaps the easiest and most effective way to get a woman alone is to ask her to come with you to get a drink.

Something like:

"I need a drink. Come keep me company."

"I'm thirsty, let's grab a drink."

"What are you drinking?" (She answers.) "Cool, let's go."

This can be perfectly effective if she is sufficiently attracted to you and you're reading the signs right.

THINGS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO SUCCEED WITH WOMEN...SERIOUSLY TAKE NOTE

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Do you want to be the ultimate ladies man?

As in, you walk down the street to grab a quick coffee… see a smoke show in line and actually be able to get her number or even instant date her there and then.

Are you interested in doing that? Being the guy that every guy wants to be?

Ok then.

Well, in order to be that guy you need to do a few things right.

The better you get at doing these things, the higher your success rate will be with women.

Below is a check list of 31 things you MUST do if you want to be THAT guy.

Miss a couple and you’ll see dwindling results, you won’t be able to put your finger on why girls aren’t responding well to you.

Check them all off and practice regularly? Then you’ll be getting laid all the time. No question.

Let’s take a look at the list.

APPROACHING / OPENING

• Have a stock opener ready (if you need it) – It’s always good to have one opener ready in your head, so that you never miss an opportunity. You will find yourself freezing on doe occasions because the girl is so hot or you just don’t have anything good to say. Write one down, practice it and use it as and when needed.

• Open with familiarity – If you open with a curious look on your face, she will be curious too. In her mind, she’ll be thinking, do I know this guy and won’t shoot you down when you open.

• Force an IOI – Forcing an indicator of interest will throw her, grab her attention and intrigue her. Plus it allows you to see whether she’s interested in you and if you should pursue her.

• Assume, don’t ask – Don’t bombard her with questions, always assume things about her and say them in an open ended way so she is obliged to answer back.

• Lead and pace (number closing) – Never ask or plead for the number. Take your phone, place it in her hand and say type in your number OR take her phone and call yours from it.

INNER GAME (MINDSET)

• Remember her name and use it – A name is powerful, it defines a person. Make sure you use it during conversation to build trust.

• Exude confidence at all times (not cockiness) – Be smooth, cool, calm and collected. Don’t over react, appear overly nervous or stutter with your words.

• Always have options – Never place all your eggs in one basket. A true player has multiple girls and options. Girl flakes on you? No worries, you have another girl who wants to meet up anyway. Always stay active with new girls and more trusted girls.

• Failure is progression – If a girl flakes, you get rejected, you experience LMR… don’t worry! Learn from it, what did you do wrong? Don’t let a girl shake your confidence. Immediately set your sights on another girl, so you don’t beat yourself up.

OUTER GAME (GAME)

• Social proof – If you can, work on your social circle. Stack up a few girls who you don’t have sex with, but are hot. Take them out with you to clubs and use them as your wing girl.

• Kino (always be touching) – Touching a girl during conversation is the quickest way to sexually escalate and create attraction.

• Maintain strong eye contact – Your eyes are a powerful tool. Keep them locked on hers and don’t break until she does.

• Use attractive body language – Keep your chest out, a firm shoulder width stance, shoulders back, chin up and take up space. This shows confidence and dominance, two things women can’t resist.

• Dial up attraction – Don’t try kissing or anything sexual too fast. Read her body language and keeping dialling up until she’s ready.

• Take the lead (don’t follow) – Stop asking her where she wants to go and if it’s cool with her. Lead, tell her what you’re doing, she will follow and she will respect you for it.

• Build rapport (connect) – Try connecting with her mentally. Ask her about her passions and interests, talk about those and use assumptions to guess how she might feel or why she might like doing those things.

• Break rapport – It’s vital that you disagree with her once in a while, this will spike attraction and make you appear more attractive.

BODY

• Lean physique – It’s been proven that girls don’t like big muscly men (well most don’t anyway) so you don’t have to become Arnie, but it does help if you keep in shape. Aim for the lean look.

• Fresh smelling cologne – Smelling fresh always spikes attraction, girls love a good smelling guy.

• Fitted clothes – Make sure your wardrobe is full of fitted clothes. Nothing baggie or outdated with horrible patterns. Simple colours and slim fitting always works.

• Minimal jewellery – Get a cool watch that goes with anything you wear. Limit the jewellery you wear as it’s might come across as looking cheesy. No pea-cocking doesn’t work.

• Trimmed stubble or clean shaven – Some women love the clean shaven look whilst other love some stubble to stroke. See what works best for your face and keep it on point. That goes for your body hair too, no one likes a grizzly bear in the bedroom!

LOGISTICS

• Have an exit plan – Don’t go out without an exit plan. As soon as you know a girl is ready for you to take her home. Have a taxi booked or drive yourself.

• Take the quickest route - Never get on the bus or train unless it’s super quick or a necessity.

• Distract the logical mind – On the way back, you need to continue with the kino and don’t let her think about what she’s doing (meaning, oh no… am I a slut for going home with this guy). Distract her logical mind by talking to her all the way back.

APARTMENT

• Clean and fresh sheets – Clean, pressed sheets are crucial. It says a lot about who you are as a guy and a potential mate.

• Candles and smells – Have a couple of candles ready to light and use some plugin air fresher so your place smells inviting.

• Easily accessible condoms/lube – Don’t fumble for the condoms, have them right next to your bed or in a place where you can grab them as soon as you’re taking each others clothes off.

• Comfortable temperature – If it’s too cold or hot, she won’t be comfortable. Make sure your place is the right temp.

• Warm lighting – Dim the lights so it’s comfortable and seductive.

• Music – Have some music lined up on the laptop or iPod which you can play the moment you get in the door to keep the mood going.

So there you have it!

A list of the most important things you need to cover if you want to be the ultimate player. Good luck!

3 THINGS WOMEN ALWAYS TAKE NOTICE OF WHEN FIRST MEETING YOU

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When you first meet someone, making a great impression in that split nano second can be very hard.

But if you know what the large majority of women always take notice of when they first meet a guy, you can engineer your looks ever so slightly to gain that edge over other guys.

Forge the perfectly trimmed stubble, overly pricey fitted blazers and perfectly sculpted hair… because they don’t mean anything unless you have the basis in place. The things that women will always notice and remember about you.

You see, it’s not always about making a good first impression.

It’s about LEAVING a good first impression. So that she remembers you when you leave, thinks about you occasionally and is excited to see you again.

Ok, let’s get on with it then.

1. COLOGNE (EAU DE TOILETTE)

I can’t stress enough how important it is to smell good. Women go CRAZY for a guy who smells good. They get turned on, want to get closer to you and go all giddy at the smell of your neck.

In my opinion these are the best smelling colognes on the market, but you may have other thoughts.

• Issey miyake – Smells fruity and summery. Girls go nuts for this stuff. A great day time smell.

• Joop – Perfect for a night out, women will be hovering around you like bees on honey.

• D&G light blue – Like you’ve just stepped out of the shower, you smell fresh all day.

2. SHOES (DON’T SCRIMP)

How many times do you hear women saying that they love a man with great taste in shoes? Like all the time right?

Well take that advice on board and get yourself some nice shoes. Don’t be afraid to splash out a little, women will notice even the small details on your shoes.

• Brogues – These little beauties are awesome with a suit and can go with jeans too. The best part is they look great even when they are worn in.

• Desert boots – A stylish shoe for men, more casual and great with a pair of jeans.

• Loafers – Perfect for all weathers, mostly summer though. Can be worn with shorts and jeans.

3. WHITE SMILE (YELLOW NEVER WINS)

There’s nothing worse than bad breath and yellow teeth. You can’t tsp staring at the persons mouth. If you approach a woman with a big white gleaming smile, she’ll remember it, trust me.

Don’t bother with the cheap at home stuff, just do what I did and go for the pro whitening at the dentist.

• Professional whitening – Go for Zoom whitening at your dentist, should cost around £200 but will make your teeth look amazing after an hour. Plus you get the home whitening gel and teeth moulds which are used at night with the peroxide gel to take your tooth colour a few shades whiter.

• At home whitening – I’ve tried the home teeth whitening route and it doesn’t really work for me, but there are so many on the market that I’m sure something is bound to work.

End it First

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Always end conversations, meetings, and phone calls first.

 [...] It does two things: First, it says "I'm not a needy guy, and I have things to do. I'm busy, and if you want me, you're going to have to work to get me."

Second, it sets up a situation where YOU are in control [...].

If you will start doing this with EVERY call, EVERY meeting, and EVERY conversation, you will be blown away at the responses you'll get.

You'll have women say "What? But we're having so much fun...!" and "Well, when can I see you again?" and "Don't you like me?".

By the way, don't take the bait when they say these things!

Say "Of course I like you, and of course I'm having fun, but I'm busy and I have a few things to do, so call me tomorrow and maybe I can get together with you at the end of the week again."

As much as you might think this is cruel and unusual punishment, women love nothing more than to go home wondering "Does he love me? Does he like me? Will he call me? Did he have fun?"

Why are Tests a Good Sign?

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"Once you understand that tests are automatic and that she's doing them because she's programmed to, you'll start to see it as a good thing.

Also - it's important to understand that if a woman is testing you she's doing it because she's attracted to you.

Women actually become attracted to many guys throughout the day. But they can't afford to be attracted to that many guys, besides the fact that they don't have time to date them all - it's not very comfortable.

So, in order to reduce the uncomfortable and unconscious "pull" of attraction they test.

This gives them certainty and puts their minds at ease.

And most of the time men will fail the test.

And when they do, the emotion of attraction subsides and [women] can go back to their business."

You Run Out of Things to Say... What to Do?

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We all have those moments when we run out of things to say. ESPECIALLY when it is a woman we really like.

 

The most important thing is to keep the conversation going anyway you can. You have to avoid letting an awkward silence fall between you. She will most likely make an excuse to leave because she is feeling uncomfortable if you don't.

 

Some tips to keep you going:

1) Anything to say, is better than nothing to say

2) Even if you go back to asking her about who she is, and what she does it is better than nothing

3) Use an opener (a line or routine that you use when you first approach a woman) or a story.

4) Move her to a different place (e.g. another part of the club or another cafe)

5) Drag out words, and talk slower (to give you time to gather your thoughts)