Life is too short to be a wussy

Be a MAn of Desire,,,,Life is Too Short to be a Wussy

Saturday, August 31, 2013

Alpha Casanovas are always in the Top 1%

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Girls in clubs are all gravitating towards the top 1% of men. In clubs, Social competition is paramount.
So here is the thing: if you attract one girl, you might get a kiss, or a number, but your chances of getting her in bed that night are slim. What you should do is create attraction with multiple girls, not just one. Meet a girl, create attraction, leave, rinse and repeat. If you stay with the first girl for an hour, you are not being strategic, and club game is all about strategy. There are too many distractions for you to hold her attention for an hour, no matter how good you are. Her friends are coming in, she is getting a text message, she is going for drinks, sees a hotter guy, some pop star just walked in, etc etc. So keep your interactions short, touch her a lot, and talk to a lot of different women. Make sure everyone sees you doing it. Women are very socially savvy, if you attract them and then leave, they will follow you with their eyes for the rest of the night. If you do this on 3 women, you have 3 watching you - but THEN those 3 women get spotted by the other girls, and now you have 9 women catching you. This works because the effect catches on like wildfire. If you want to learn more about these techniques Click Here.

Friday, August 30, 2013

ALPHAS PLEASEEEEE.......Don't be a Social Robot

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When you are meeting women you need to adjust your behavior to the way they respond. For example, if you use attraction tactic XYZ, it does not work all the time. Sometimes it will move you further away from winning her over. Each tactic works at the appropriate time with the appropriate woman. To know what to do you need to calibrate her reactions in two ways:
1. Where she is in the attraction process (e.g. disinterested, interested, attracted etc.)
2. Who she is and what she is all about
 Let's break this down:
 1. Where she is in the attraction process
You will get three types of responses when you meet women. Green light (you can move forward), Yellow light (not sure, you need to find out more information), red (stop what you are doing). If you get a green light you can move forward and show more interest in her. When you get yellow you should continue what you were doing to find out more. When you get a red light you should move backwards, and show more disinterest.
 2. Who is she and what she is all about Depending on her self esteem level, confidence and background she will respond more or less positively to different tactics. Learn through practice how to calibrate to who she is. Don't be a social robot. Learn to understand what a woman's reactions signal. Then you can adapt your game in real time and win her over. Click Here if you want to learn to be a Natural Alpha Man

Thursday, August 29, 2013

A Little-known Orgasm Secret

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A woman needs a continuous flow of stimulation in bed to get an orgasm. It is the best method for bringing her to orgasm. When you sense that she's about to come, don't stop and don't make changes. Keep doing whatever you're doing faster and harder to bring her over the edge. For the same reason, when you go down on a woman, the technique of "the alphabet" (licking her in the shape of all letters from A to Z) is DUMB - even though it's often recommended in magazines or on TV. It doesn't work because you keep doing something different - A, B, C etc. Instead, you should be doing it in a way that you see she enjoys, and keep repeating the same motion. Always remember she needs a Continuous Flow of Stimulation to take her pleasure to the next level. If you want to learn our secrets Click here.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Boy life is too short to be a Wussy MAN UP!!!!,,,

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I strongly encourage you to challenge yourself to approach as much as possible and do everything you can in the beginning stages of learning how to pick up girls. If you want to become free of that anxiety, and get out of your head while meeting women than the only way out is through approaching
a lot. I challenge you to approach the most intimidating looking girls, or even the ones that look like they just "aren't gonna go anywhere." For example, have you ever not approach a girl because you just thought to yourself "oh it's probably not gonna go anywhere." If the answer is YES, then I recommend you
APPROACH EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING that you find is fuckable or even reasonably cute. You gotta get as many experiences under your belt in a short amount of time as possible. I would watch some of my friends climb up a
ledge just to talk to a girl surrounded by 5 buff guys and they are all eating dinner. Just because he thought she was hot and he was gonna go for it anyways. Did he get the girl? No. But what he did get was balls. He increased his ball size. Each and every day you can increase the size of your balls by doing things that are going to take you outside of your comfort zone. The hottest girl in the venue is surrounded by 5 meat head body builders that look like they are going to pound your face into the floor? Approach her anyway.
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Get over that fear, get over the bull shit stories that your brain makes up. I highly doubt any of that shit would actually happen. I've done it plenty of times. I've approached to what I thought was the "scariest set" and to actually end up pulling at the end.
You've got to do it for yourself. You've got to do it to grow as a person.
Do it to get over that fear and to prove to yourself that talking to women and approaching them is OKAY. Once you get that attitude that approaching women is "OKAY" you become fearless. You will approach with confidence. You just go right in without hesitation. There's no more standing around waiting for the right opportunity to approach the girl you WANT, because you just go right in and approach her immediately upon seeing. There's an old saying which is "He who hesitates, masturbates." So do you wanna be great with women and have all the pussy that your life can even handle? Than you must give your self a kick in the ass and really step it up and go all for it. See how many chicks you can hit up in a day. We would do things like 50 girl challenge and hit up 50 girls in one day. That was insane and I LEARNED so much from doing that. I also felt so powerful and in state knowing I can't get knocked down. If a girl were to blow me out then I knew there would be a girl a few feet away I can go talk to. I was always on to the next one. The funny thing is at the end of the night I was actually ended up back at a chicks house who BLEW ME OUT and thought I was CREEPY a few years back. People are gonna think you are creepy and weird in the beginning but than as time passes you become the coolest mother fucker ever. Once you realize that you are the coolest mother fucker ever, you don't care about how you look to other people, and you just do whatever it is that you want.
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Will you still creep people out? Yes!! Tons!! But instead of feeling bad about it you actually think it's hilarious cause you know there will be 10 other girls that week just waiting to jump on your dick. So the moral of the story is approach as many sets as possible in a given day. Try to challenge your beliefs and get new ones for your new reality your building for yourself.
Approach all the scary looking sets, like the ones with guys in it, or the ones with the girl on the phone, or maybe she's walking really fast, catch right up to her!!! Do it for you!! Do it for all the girls your gonna be banging in the future!! They are counting on you!!! I think this is great advice for anyone who
has approach anxiety. There's just no substitute for getting out there and doing it over and over until the fear goes away.

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

How to be the drug she can't get enough of.


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A woman needs a continuous flow of stimulation in bed to get an orgasm. It is the best method for bringing her to orgasm. When you sense that she's about to come, don't stop and don't make changes. Keep doing whatever you're doing faster and harder to bring her over the edge. For the same reason, when you go down on a woman, the technique of "the alphabet" (licking her in the shape of all letters from A to Z) is DUMB - even though it's often recommended in magazines or on TV. It doesn't work because you keep doing something different - A, B, C etc. Instead, you should be doing it in a way that you see she enjoys, and keep repeating the same motion. Always remember she needs a Continuous Flow of Stimulation to take her pleasure to the next level.

Self-amusement Attracts Women....Remember This Alphas

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When you are focused on amusing yourself you project a very positive vibe that attracts women. Why is this? The rule is that people who offer value (value givers) attract others, while people who take value (value takers) repel people. Giving value can be many things, but in this case we are talking about giving people positive emotions. Making them feel good. People love to be around others that make them feel good. A big factor in attracting a woman when you first meet her is:
- When you are bringing the party, she is interested.
- When you are trying to wedge your way into her party, she is repelled.
 If you are looking to her for amusement, to feel good, with her making good conversation for example, you are a value taker. And will repel her, or at least not attract her that much. If, on the other hand, you create amusement for yourself, and as a consequence you amuse her, you give her value. You become a value giver. And she will be interested in you. As will people in general. This is why you should seek to be self-amusing. To generate your own fun and positive emotions..

Monday, August 26, 2013

ALPHA... Do You Violate Women's Social Norms?

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Women will sometimes try to bait you into violating social norms so that they can reject you legitimately. Don't take the bait. For instance, if someone is rude to you, don't be rude back to them. That makes you a 'social violator'. A woman can reject you if you do this to a friend of hers, or even someone she doesn't know. Another example: if a woman's friend runs over while you are talking to her and they scream and hug and start talking between themselves ignoring you, then they have created a new shared interaction without you. If you stand there like a dork, you feel stupid and start to panic. If you bust in, in a reactive way, you become a social violator. The social pressure is building on you... "I can't leave and I can't stay". You eventually walk away with your tail between your legs.
The solution, Alpha's way, is to interrupt in a way that follows social norms by saying "Uh, introduce me to your friend, it's the polite thing to do." This is friendly and also demonstrates a level of dominance and leading.

Sunday, August 25, 2013

23 Inspirational Quotes To Every Alpha Casanova Man

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“Don’t let what you can’t do stop you from what you can do”
John Wooden
“You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore”
Christopher Columbus
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall”
Confucius
“A thousand words will not leave so deep an impression as one deed”
Henrik Ibsen
“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities”
J.K. Rowling
“If you are going through hell, keep going”
Winston Churchill
“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today? Today is a gift. That’s why we call it the present”
B. Olatunji
“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that’s all”
Oscar Wilde
“You don’t get to choose how you are going to die. Or when. You can only decide how you are going to live. Now.”
Joan Baez
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; But often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us”
Helen Keller
“Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world”
Albert Einstein
“If you want to be happy, be”
Leo Tolstoy
“Always do right. This will gratify some people and astonish the rest”
Mark Twain
“We must be the change we want to see”
Gandhi
“The friend in my adversity I shall always treasure most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity”
Ulysses S. Grant
“Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting”
Elizabeth Bibesco
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of conflict and controversy”
Martin Luther King Jr.
“Begin doing what you want to do now. We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand – and melting like a snow flake”
M.B. Ray
“I shall pass through this life but once. Any good therefore that I can do, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it. For I shall never pass this way again”
Etienne de Grellet
“This above all: To your own self, be true”
William Shakespeare
“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle any human being can fight; and never stop fighting”
E.E. Cummings
“In three words I can sum up what I’ve learned about life: It goes on”
Robert Frost
“Imagine”
John Lennon


Know when to SHUT UP...ALpha Boy!!!

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Most guys spend a hell of a lot of time learning what to say to women, but never knowing when they should NOT talk to women. Not all the work of attracting women is about you doing the talking. Ever heard these phrases:
"Silence is golden."
"Think before you speak, or suffer for your words."
Or, my favorite: "It is better to be silent and thought a fool than to open ones mouth and remove all doubt."
So you remember that date with Athena where I botched things up badly? Well the big lesson I learned was that I had her good and ready, but I kept talking and talking and boring her out of her skull. In short, I OVERSOLD her.
This is known in some circles as "snatching defeat from the jaws of victory." When you've made the sale, CLOSE the sale. And shut up! You might even try to make sure you're shifting the burden of talk by asking more questions than you are answering them. That will ensure you don't talk your way out of your own success.
Sometimes it's not what to say to women - it's what NOT to say that gets you what you want. There you go, three hidden secrets of what to say to women. If you use these tips when you talk to women, you'll avoid most of the traps and pitfalls that the other guys fall into out there. Let me ask you something: Have you tried to be the Nice Guy - the kind of man that women SAY they want - but you found out the hard way that women don't really want "nice"? You know that women SHOULD be knocking down your door because of how well you'd treat them and all the great things you do for them, but you get no results - just frustration - and nowhere near the kind of sexual satisfaction you deserve. If you want to learn the essential skills of how to be the Alpha Man that women want, I've got something you need to see. It's fast, easy, and guaranteed to get you meeting women and dating more women than you ever have before in just a few weeks. Date as many women as you want for as long as YOU want. It's up to you...CLICK HERE => How To Create Instant Natural Attraction With Women

ALPHAS...No facts, Please

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A big mistakes we make - as guys - is to make our conversations with women all about facts and hard data.
Women HATE this kind of talk. It bores the heck out of them. We men like it because it represents nice absolutes, and guys like to be able to put things in their absolute little drawer in the garage of life. But women want something different: They want to talk about FEELINGS. I know, ick. But that doesn't mean you have to suddenly become a therapist to know what to say to women. All you really need to do is just start talking about topics that guys AND girls like to talk about. I'll give you a fast clue as to what works best: DRAMA. Ever see one of those celebrities on the cover of "People" or some other magazine you normally roll your eyes at when you're at the checkout register? Yes, that's the stuff right there. Celebrity drama works GREAT for conversation with women. So drop the facts, man, and remember that what to say to women always means talking about something she can get emotionally involved in. 

What To Say To Women

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When I was about 7 years old, I was out playing with my friend Matt in the apartment complex where I grew up. We were out just having fun, and I happened upon a book of matches that someone had dropped. We started lighting them and putting them in a plastic cup, just watching them burn. I noticed that if you slid the match on that strip on the matchbook and you did it too slow, the match wouldn't light. But if you literally "strike" that match on the back (the same as the instructions on the matchbook, funny enough), that was enough friction to light the match. Later on, I realized that this is a lot like conversation and learning what to say to women. You have to be willing to start things up with that burst of energy. Even at the risk of being "too much" for a woman, you have to get a little - dare I say - incendiary. When you're talking to women, make sure you're not trying too hard to be nice and chilled out. Humans have this uncontrollable mean streak that comes out when we have to deal with someone that drains us. This is the side of us that makes us mistreat needy people and dump "nice people."
If you don't risk putting the whole interaction on the line with her, you're probably never going to get to the point of really lighting the match. Click HERE For What To Say To Women

Friday, August 23, 2013

The Truth About The Friend Zone...Alphas

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There is NOTHING wrong with being friends with girls.Truth is, I LOVE girls, and I LOVE being friends with them. More than men. Additionally my dude, it is INCREDIBLY positive for you and your dating skills to have many girls that are just your friends. I remember the first time I realized how powerful this was. I went out with a girl I was seeing and a few of her friends. It was years ago, in prison I mean college. Me and her hung out on the living room couch as her friends got ready for the night.
I watched the work they went through, with the make-up, and the different dresses, and the various shoes, and the gossip about different guys in their social circle and so on. Then when we went out and were chilling at a table, it was incredibly enlightening for me to hear what they said about random guys approaching them vs guys they already knew approaching them. I don't even know if they were aware of it, but we'll get to that in a second. I've only said 14,000 times in 2013 so I'll say it again now.
Meeting girls through your social circle, even if it's a 10-second introduction through someone else you barely know is a LIFE-CHANGER. The difference is palpable, and on that night, it was unmistakable. A couple typical confident dudes comes up trying to talk to two of the girls at our table, and stay for 60 seconds before they take the hint... Their approach was strong, and they were chill.
Didn't matter. Right when they walked away, the girls turn to us and go, "God this place is so creepy." Not two minutes later, two other guys come up and they're literally cutouts of the same cloth as the first two guys. No visible difference in how they're dressed, body language, etc and they say the same things as the other guys.. "What's up? What's been going on? Did you hear what happened with X? Cool, we'll see you guys later.." Right when they walk away, the girls turn to us again and go,
"They're kinda cute, aren't they? We met them through Sara the other day.." Being a social dynamics friend, then as much as now, I never forgot that unmistakeable lesson. A lesson I would have never learned from the outside, one that I only truly felt and experienced because I was only friends with these girls. OK. You hear that? I WASN'T TRYING TO FVCK THEM. By choice.... I was only FRIENDS with them. I chose them to be just my friends. Now, a lot of guys reading this grew up with such "friend zone" issues that they've developed a hatred at the mere thought of it. They don't want to be friends with a girl, ever. That'd be losing, that'd be no different than how it used to be. I call bullshit, motherfvcker. It is different. No longer are you getting stuck in a make-believe friend zone.
Today, and from now on.. You are the one putting the girl in the friend zone. You put her there. You decided YOU wanted to just be friends with her, at least for now. You still treat her like any other girl.
You tease her, you challenge her, you don't give a fvck around her, but you are not trying to do anything physical with her. She's just a friend who probably happens to be attracted to you.
So now when you go out, you have friends that are girls to go out with. Think that's going to help your game? They introduce you to other girls. You claim the ones you like, and sleep with them. Think that's going to make your friend want you even more? But you're still just playful and challenging with her, like you are every girl. She's just your friend. Here's the secret I promised you before, that makes this whole thing work, and makes all the difference in your steez. Burn this to the inside of your skull, por favor. it is IMPOSSIBLE for a High-Status Male to be put in the friend zone. There is no such thing as a friend zone for a High-Status Male. He's got many girls that are friends, and only friends, of his own volition, and at any time, if he wants something to happen with one of them, because he is high-status, he can make it happen almost instantly. 
Bottom line: Make girls your friends, be cool with them, play with them, mess around with them, challenge them.
Bottom, bottom line:
Understand, it's COOL to have a lot of girls that are your friends because now, as a charming, dashing, good-smelling high-status male, YOU'RE THE ONE THAT PUT THEM IN YOUR FRIEND-ZONE. You're in control. YOU can take them out of it whenever you want.
You can even tease them about it. Tell them, "They're so funny and cute, it's too bad you're in my friend zone." But actually mean it. Want NOTHING from them. Relax. Be cool. Awesome attracts awesome, so chill. Let the awesome come to you, know that it's on its way. Trust that it will.

Thursday, August 22, 2013

20 Things That Attract Women

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1. A man that is a LEADER not a FOLLOWER.
2. Men who are direct and ask for what they want, rather than tippy toeing around it – e.g. If you see a woman you want, approach her. Don’t try to be “friendly” and cover up that you find her attractive. Be direct and find out if you are attracted to her. If so, then ask for her number. Get what YOU want.
3. Men who have their own ‘full life’ that they can become a part of.
4. A man that has boundaries – e.g. I will not contact a woman who flakes on me. She must contact me and do the work to set up another date.
5. Men who understand female insecurity and know how to handle such tension with ease.
6. Men that have their own beliefs and passions.
7. A man that is comfortable with himself and can speak his mind.
8. A man that can listen without being defensive. (defensive = insecurity, open up to listening and compromise = strength and security)
9. A man that is able to make things happen (being proactive).
10. A man who doesn’t need a woman, but wants her in his life.
11. Men who are nice but not wimpy.
12. A man who is not afraid to touch a woman – Touch her softly on the small of her back, on the shoulder, or her hand.
13. A man that is not afraid to try new things – e.g. wear 1 article of clothing that is slightly out of your comfort zone each week.
14. A man that knows he has options.
15. Men that compliment because they mean it, not because they have nothing else to say.
16. A man that is confident during conversation.
17. Men that create their own lines of conversation, instead of borrowing from others.
18. A man that has emotional control a.k.a he does not let emotions rule his actions.
19. A man that is interesting and interested.
20. Men that can guide the conversation, not dominate it. (Men should be talking 25% to a woman’s 75%)

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

ALPHAS REMEMBER THIS.....Women Can't Control their Attraction

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"Attraction Isn't a Choice" - probably the most famous quote by dating coach David DeAngelo.
 But what does it mean exactly? It means women have no choice in feeling drawn towards a man who displays the attractive qualities women like. In fact, as men, we also have little choice - you don't decide who you are attracted to. When you see a beautiful woman or someone who is "just your type", attraction just happens, instantly. It is not a logical process. The same thing happens to women, although the qualities they look for are different. This is excellent news. It means that if you just learn what these qualities are, and how to display them genuinely, you will naturally and easily become much more attractive to women. And you will also become a better, stronger, happier man in the process. That is what improving your dating skills should be about.

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Stop Wondering Alphas. It Puts the Nails in your Coffin...

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It's amazing how much a world class jazz musician can teach you about being spontaneous and in the moment. [My jazz teacher] said "If you mess up or play the wrong note, to hell with it! It's done man, you can't go back to that. The river keeps flowing. Stay in the present!" [He] also once said: "In a spontaneous art form, how you think is EVERYTHING!" (And if you don't think pick-up is a spontaneous art form, try memorizing an entire pick-up, go out and see how much you actually use.)
 A lot of guys try to go back and fix their mistakes in game. They will be thinking about what they said 30 seconds ago, wondering if it was good or not, "Was that an attractive thing to say? Did I just blow it? What does she think of that?" Well guess what - it's not what you said two minutes ago that's going to hurt you, it's the mental distraction that is going to put the nails in your coffin! The next time you say something stupid, and you find yourself thinking about ANYTHING that has happened in the past with a woman. STOP. Get back into the moment immediately - get the job done! Your triumphant return to the present will pull her attention to the present as well, and your carefree focus will negate any "mistakes" you think you may have made."

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Mystery in field......The MAn

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Meeting Women - Forget about Bars & Clubs Alphas...Women are everywhere!!!

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Too many guys have a sort of tunnel vision: they think they can only meet women in clubs. Too many guys fall for the dolled-up girl in the club with high heels, make up etc. They don't realize that the same girl was in flip-flops and a ponytail and a loose sweater dropping her laundry off at 3 PM. You could have picked her up there. Same girl, same dress, same legs. But [you can meet her right there and] you don't have to fight with 10 other half-drunk guys.The reality is, Women are all around us, all the time. Bars & clubs are the most obvious place to meet women, therefore they attract the most competition Take your blinders off - day game, meeting women during your routine activities is good.

Saturday, August 17, 2013

The Three Big Lessons of a Power Alpha Casanova Man

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What follows below are 3 major lessons I've learned from being friends with Alpha Casanova Men.
They are just a small sample of the wisdom pie, and things I've learned just from being around them.
Lesson #1: Always Have Something Better To Say.
Wittiness, Banter. Cleverness. I love always having something better to say - it keeps life interesting for me, otherwise 98% of the conversations I have with people would bore me - I'd get stuck reading books all of the time, instead of just some of the time.
2. A Man Lean Into His Edges, Always.
A man is always leaning into his edges, in all areas of life. That means he HATES complacency and not challenging himself, but....he also knows his own limits, respects them and charges himself just to that edge, where it's an engaging, engrossing challenge - not too far but not too easy.
3. The Choice of the Badass
When I look around nowadays, do you know what I see? I see a hot girl, with a ridiculous yoga body, 
sewing a dress on my bed. That's what I see right now - I'm actually writing this to you
from my bed, and she's a few feet away from me sewing a dress.
But generally speaking, do you know what I see? A bunch of men who REGRESS during life.
Alive and charging in their 20's and sometimes 30's, they hit the stupid fvcking brake pad at some point in there and just STOP. They stop getting quicker, they stop getting smarter, they stop learning new things, they stop challenging themselves, they stop going after what they want, they stop raising their standards, they start accepting uninspired BLAH mediocrity, they start living at the effect instead of the cause, they give the fvck up and it makes me sick when I think about so NEXT PARAGRAPH.


The Choice Of The Badass

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As you get older you have two choices:
1. Become a boring, typical, predictable, politically correct
member of society who probably does some good by someone
else's standards, gets a couple pats on the head and then dies,
OR..
2. Push yourself, lean into your edges forever, and
GROW EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Put it out there, further, every single day.
Live adventurously, rebelliously, every single day.
Let the beast inside of your ROAR,
free and wild and happy, every single day.
And get better, every. single. day.
#kaizen
That's how Alpha Casanovas live, and they love seeing it -
it's exactly how I plan on doing it as I get
older too. 
It's something to look forward to. I ask myself questions like, "Brother, do you even realize how billionaire playboy genius charming you'll be in 20 years?"
(The answer, is yes, yes I do, and it's stunningly breathtaking.)

A Trick from Romance Novels - False Barriers

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In almost all romance novels, there's at least one barrier preventing lovers from being together. What keeps women's eyeballs glued to these books is the unresolved emotional tension sparked by the barrier. They have to keep reading until the lovers get past the barrier. Let's look at an example of creating a false barrier within the context of using Push-Pull techniques. When the words flowing out of a woman's mouth ooze sarcasm, I'll chide, "You're very sarcastic." Oftentimes, women will sense that I'm criticizing them and begin to explain their behavior. Before they get a chance to respond, I'll say, "I know this because I'm sarcastic too. If you and I hung out, we'd have the best time making fun of everyone... but then we'd be karmically tainted. So you and I should  never hang out."  Time and again, women clamor, "No... that's not true... We'd get along great. We should totally hang out."
Accusing her of being sarcastic Pushes her away. Establishing the sarcastic  commonality Pulls her in. Giving her a reason that you cannot hang out with her creates a false barrier and Pushes her away.  She feels compelled to close the Tension Loop by overcoming the barrier. To do so, she has to convince you that you should hang out with her. This sets the Meta-Frame that you're the Prize she is trying to win over.