1. YOUR EGO
An ego can be a very detrimental part of your personality. It can ruin your chances with a girl, screw up a good set set and spark of poisonous characters traits like jealousy, anger and frustration.
You have to work on suppressing your “dominant” emotions, the
ones that are killing your game.
ones that are killing your game.
If not, you will never be able to control your frame and the feelings of others around you.
SO HOW DO YOU WORK ON YOUR EGO?
- Stop complaining – Complaining will feed your ego and you’ll start subscribing to your own delusional beliefs. Work on your inner thoughts and stop yourself from complaining. I guarantee you’ll notice a HUGE improvement in how you think.
- Be grateful for where and who you are – Look at the positives in every situation and focus on those. The negatives will only fuel your anger and ignite your ego.
- Accept failure – Have you heard of the expression “just roll with the punches’ before? Well this is the mindset you should adopt when shit goes bad. Your life will consist of failures, triumphs and everything in between. So the next time shit goes bad.. accept that it’s life and just deal with it. Shit stuff and pain is temporary.
2. BAD VIBES, THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS
Your frame will be interpreted by everyone who comes into contact with you. This means they will feel everything you’re feeling just by the way you are acting/speaking.
If you’re in a group and you feel awkward… they will feel awkward too.
If you feel sad, they will feel uncomfortable.
If you feel angry, they will feel edgy.
Whatever you are feeling in the moment will be projected through your body language, thoughts and words… so snap the FUCK out of it and project positive, fun, happy vibes man!
3. YOUR REALITY
Frame control is simply controlling the dominant emotion of an interaction. In that moment, THAT emotion you are feeling is YOUR REALITY.
If it’s the most dominant emotion in your group, then you are controlling the reality of that group.
Sounds a bit woo woo, I know but let me put it this way.
Imagine Eminem walking into a club in your area.
What do you think will happen?
Everyone would want to be near him, speak to him, take a picture with him… if you’re a girl, you’d want to sleep with him.
Now he’s controlling that environment without worrying about what to say to women, what lines he’s going to use, how his body language looks, if he’s spiked her sexual attraction for him.
None of that stuff.
All he’s concerned about is himself.
LAST WORD ON STATUS
I want to be clear on what high-status is, because you can work in a restaurant and still convey a high status personality… I’m serious.
The energy you give off to a girl through frame control is what makes you a high status guy. It’s not necessarily down to money, friends, social circles or anything else (but they can certainly help).
If you’re a manager of a restaurant, who is in charge of 30 staff, taking in the money, talking to the CEO, leading your team, telling people off, giving praise to others and just making sure everything is in order… you’re a high status male in that particular scenario.
The girls who are working under you, will be attracted to you based on the fact that you’re in charge, you call the shots and you run the show.