If you suffer from approach anxiety, then you need to get that handled before attempting the approach, otherwise you’ll just come across as a quivering wreck and will get shot down in no time. Before I get into the 3 secrets of how to approach a girl… I first want to give you a good and bad example of a typical approach, this can be played out in most situations (daytime, club etc).
THE STRUCTURE OF A GOOD APPROACH
- You see a girl (force an IOI or go in cold)
- You open with a direct or indirect based on the situation
- She responds positively for the first 10 seconds
- You keep the conversation going, introduce very light kino, build rapport and develop a strong trustworthy connection.
- You instant date her or number close
Sounds easy enough right? Well yes, but it can be tougher when you don’t know the steps/secrets.
THE STRUCTURE OF A BAD APPROACH
- You see a girl… think about what to say… crap your pants… and eventually go over
- You open her with pathetic body language and fumble over your words
- You don’t make eye contact… she takes a step back, thinks you’re an odd ball and makes an excuse to leave in hurry (or just flat out ignores you).
- Your confidence takes another hit… you go home and watch porn whilst hating life.
Got the picture? Ok cool, so let me show you the best way to approach a girl… a way that keeps her interested long enough for you to build attraction and go for the close.